What I THOUGHT was Common Sense About Marriage + GIVEAWAY

This past Valentine’s Day, David and I decided to do a little something out of the norm and attend a young couple’s newlywed evening. The night began with Mass, followed by dinner, a few talks, and dancing.

And let me just preface this by saying the day of the event, David and I did NOT want to go. We had just been in an argument that morning and the last people we wanted to hang out with was each other. Not exactly how you want to spend your Valentine’s Day amiright?! But we put on our “happy” face and our fancy clothes and headed out despite our not-so-pretty attitudes.

Well when we were asked to do the readings for mass all I kept thinking was I’m probably not in a good place to do these readings but, not wanting to explain myself, we said yes anyways. I got up to do the first reading… Gen. 2  18-24… the creation of woman.  A great reading. Next, David was up. And of course he had the reading from our wedding… oh you know the one… 1 Corinthians 12. Well I don’t know about anyone else in that chapel, but that second reading was speaking RIGHT to David and my grumpy selves.

Common Sense

“(Love) is not rude, it does not seek its own intereests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth.”

Okay, thanks, God, we get it. So suttle. Not.

After Mass, David and I talked it out before heading to the dinner and we were feeling much better, especially after getting some food and wine in our bellys. But then came the talks. They were given by a married couple who are both counselors in the Michigan area and were focusing on things that can break your marraige and things that can build your marriage. And I’m not going to lie. I was sitting, listening to this couple talk, and at first  all I could think was, well duh, I’ve heard that before.

Everything at first seemed like things I already knew. Like the importance of Christ in the center of your marriage, praying together often, treating your spouse like you treat friends or co-workers, finding out how they feel loved (not how you feel loved) and making them feel loved, not being resentful of past hurts, not holding grudges or piling on guilt or making someone feel bad for something… All of these, and more, were given to us (in a more pretty and articulate way than I just gave) as ways to better your marriage. But the more I realized I’d heard these before, the more I realized David and I weren’t necessarily good at doing them.

We’ve heard these suggestions all our engaged and dating life, and so it was second nature for me to think that, we’ve heard them, we know them, so that’s it. But I’ll admit. I know I’m guilty of doing something nice for David and hoping for reciprication. Or one of us blaming the other for something that is just silly and not necessary. Or one of us just fighting for the “upper hand” in an argument. Over and over I’ve heard these things we should do for our spouses, but I can’t say that David or I’ve been the best at practicing  these daily.

After the reading we’d heard that day (one I’ve heard plenty of times before) and the “common sense” talks we’d heard, I knew David and I needed to make some changes. On the way home that night we talked some more and apologized again for our lame-o fight.

I’m learning this whole marriage thing isn’t the easiest thing I’ll do in my life. But it has the potential to be the most rewarding.

As I continue to learn more about being a better wife, I’m going to be starting another round of 31 Days of Prayer for Your Husband on March 1st! I would love for you join me. Don’t worry if you aren’t married or engaged, this is a great prayer for your future spouse, yourself, the men in your life, or really just about anybody in your life.

Click the link below to sign up and receive daily prayer intentions for your husband as well as corresponding Bible verses. After signing up, you’ll receive an email asking you to confirm your Sign Up.

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7QT: Farmers Markets, Comics, and FREE Stuff

Another week has come and gone. I can’t really tell if the week flew by or dragged on. I guess it depends on my current mood at the time. Right now? If it went any slower I think we’d go back  in time to last Monday. So let’s start our Friday the right way with 7 Quick Takes with Jen.

1. So I’ve talked many times about Mackinac Island. It’s a little island at the tip of Michigan that is incredibly charming, has no cars, and smells constantly of fudge (It was also named one of the top islands in the world recently). It’s one of my favorite places in the world and I’ve gone there almost every year since I was about 6 years old to watch my uncle in the boat race from Port Huron, MI to Mackinac Island. Well today I just found out I’ll be able to take the time off to go up once again. It was all really sitting on David’s shoulders, whether or not he could get the time off. But alas, his new boss was a gem and is letting him go! My stomach already happily hurts just thinking about all the fudge and ice cream and sea food I will be comsuming.


2. D and I have really been trying to find fun little random day trips for our weekends. Since we don’t have kids right now, we figured we should really take advantage of this free time we have. So tomorrow, we are thinking about going to the Detroit Motor City ComicCon. I mean, we are not big comic people per se, but we love a good superhero and thought it would be a random and fun way to spend the day. I told D if we go we have to dress up in costumes. You can bet he was NOT feelin’ that.

3.  Do you love Farmers Markets? I sure do. And now that I’m in a new area and it’s that season again, I’m trying to find one that is close enough and open on Saturday mornings. Luckily I found this awesome site that tells you where the closest Farmers Market is and it gives all their info. Very handy. What do you like to get at Farmers Markets?


4. You should really go check out the social media pages for the Archdiocese of Detroit. Here and Here. I may be biased, but I think we put some good stuff up :) #ReasonsILovemyJob

5. This morning I forgot to put on makeup. And initially I freaked a little. Which, yes, I know it’s sad. A few years ago I gave up makeup for Lent and it is probably one of the hardest Lents I’ve had. How many times in a day can a person say to you, “WOW! you look so tired”…………………. When was that comment ever okay to say to a person? Nevertheless, I know it’s a bad habbit to have for ALL the time. On the plus side, it’s given me some ideas for blog posts in the future. So I guess, 2 points for looking tired today…?

6. A big plus coming soon. Next month it’ll be one YEAR since I started blogging. At least blogging here. I used to have another little thing I guess you could call a blog but it ended almost as soon as it began. SO with that said, I’ll be having a giveaway soon! TA DAAA! Everyone loves a good giveaway!  And free stuffff.

7. I don’t remember who said this quote. If you know, holla at me. But I can’t stop thinking about it lately. It’s so perfect. So I’ll leave you with it :)

When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, ‘I used everything you gave me’.

Not bad right?? How about you? What are your plans this weekend? Farmers Markets? ComicCon? Vacation? Whatever it may be, enjoy it!